By John Peterson
If you could live a life less ordinary, what would you do differently? I believe that if we are really honest with ourselves, there are many things in this life we would “do-over” with the benefit of hindsight. Do you agree?
I have spent my entire life learning from and being fascinated with how much smarter I am after the mistakes but wishing I had acted sooner or slightly differently when I had the chance.
Would we all have become the people we are today without the mistakes, the lessons learned the hard way etc.?
“Failure is merely an experience on the way to success.” – Henry Ford
DO WE LEARN MORE FROM FAILURES THAN SUCCESSES?
I believe that in many scenarios I have learned much more from those devastating failures along the way than from the successes. The successes become fond memories, but the failures remind me of the better person I long to become.
SUCCESS OR FAILURE -WHAT DRIVES YOU THE MOST?
Looking back it really is the combination of successes and failures that create our own “personal blueprint” or our outlook, our model of the world. Therefore, both the successes and failures are equally as important in the story of my own life. These days, I am far more motivated by the fear of not becoming the best version of myself that I can possibly be. Or that I might create new regrets in the future. So I strive on, hungry for knowledge and thirsty for personal growth and mastery of every single opportunity presented me today and in the future.
REGRETS-WHAT ARE YOUR MOST HAUNTING?
Not going back to school, or further studies as an adult? Not learning the piano these past ten years? Not learning how to make money online while asleep? Not getting serious about health and fitness for more than ten years? Not creating better eating habits, or getting to bed earlier and starting each day at dawn being super organized?
When I stop and think about it, itis easy to quickly draft up a long list of regrets. If we are not careful these regrets can act as a dead weight on our own shoulders. Like an anchor, suggesting to us that we cannot do much about them, or that this is who we are, just a so-called “Average Joe.”
REFLECTING RATHER THAN REGRETTING
When we reflect, we start to explore much more than the failed or flawed outcome (or our failures) of the past. Instead, we start to reflect on the situation, the rationale or the back story, the options we did or did not fully appreciate at the time and why we made the decisions or took the actions we did.
It is a subtle shift in mindset, however reflecting on the past rather than just regretting is far more constructive and offers a window of opportunity and hope into a brighter future.
TURNING HINDSIGHT INTO INSIGHT
I know it is not always easy to take the benefit of hindsight and repackage your own model of the world gone by into insight–because hindsight is so damn frustrating and hurtful that doing so can bring those feelings back to the surface.